As time goes on certain aspects in our life tend to slip. Whether it be our weight, energy levels, fitness, financial savings or relationships. But why do we slip? And when we do, why is it natural for it to seem like failure or disappointment?
One of the reasons is because we haven’t put a “detection method” in place, so we don’t realise we’re slipping, until the point where you ask yourself…”How did it get this way?”
Well what can we do to prevent this from happening?
It a simple thing called a Set Point. A Set Point is the bare minimum threshold that you establish for yourself as a promise you will not go below.
For instance, a common one being If we go above or below our ‘norm’ weight. Or the amount of time spent with your family. Do you place a bare minimum standard for yourself?
Then the next step is having a “set point correction procedure” where there’s a process you do in order reach your set point. For instance, if your weight goes above or below your set point, do you attend more gyms classes or change your diet? Whatever it is you know can bring it back to that level.
There’s 2 rules to keep with set points. The first is that it has to be achievable. The second is to set a goal to raise your set point. Therefore, you won’t be slipping but actually gradually improving.
It also reframes your thoughts on failure. When you have that slip, instead of reacting to it as a disappointment or failure you turn it into challenge. Use that drop as a kick up the backside to go beyond your set point . You’ll now be persuing with optimism and a challenge to get better.
When you hold firm to your set points you stop slipping up so much, and you begin to enjoy less disruption in your life.
Recent Comments